Weird title for a post eh? But it fits how I’m feeling right now. Reminds me of that totally awesome feeling I have when speeding down a freshly paved highway, no cars in sight. Such a smooth ride, with the perfect breeze coming in the windows. I could drive like that for hours (and I have once on a straight 11 hour shot from Halifax to Montreal.) But then something cruddy happens: road construction, speed trap, tourists driving an RV at 30 below the speed limit. And suddenly all the happiness is gone and I feel like a nutter.
Anyway, 2 weeks ago (wow has it really been that long?) something happened that really threw my family for a loop. And I need to say thank you to everyone who left comments of support – seriously you guys are amazing. By writing out that post I did feel a little better, but truly it was the warm, thoughtful comments and advice that really helped me. It helped that I didn’t feel alone in my own head. It helped to hear that others felt the same. Thank you, thank you, thank you – I cannot say it enough.
As for how my son is getting on, he’s bounced back amazingly. I did some research, made some calls, and learned about the impact violence can have on kids. During this I heard terrifying things, so in my head I knew the worst case scenarios, maybe that helped a bit. The sleeplessness, loss of appetite and slight anxiety he experienced are normal and actually very positive compared to what could have occurred. Also we found out how to get on with life, basically we learned to live our normal lives but not to ignore what happened. So this incident is not a taboo topic. During a family reunion my son got a little anxious but everyone knew why and offered a hug or smile. We are not coddling, but we are being supportive when he needs it.
The hardest thing has been my instinct to protect him, keep him in sight. But that could be more harmful that anything. My son has been spending lots of time with his friends (an amazing group of teens who rallied around him in support) going to movies, sleep-outs, game tourneys, and just hanging out. Today he’s going to the beach with a friend of his whose visiting for the summer. My son is awesome and I’m so happy to say that.
However, the criminal outcome of all this is not going as well as I would like. The local police had handed the case over to a special group of investigators. Apparently this is because of something going on that involves other crimes, that my son’s incident may be related to. The information our family has received so far is zilch. There have been quite a few reports coming from the same area where my son was attacked, a man was stabbed in the same spot, robberies, vandalism etc. At any given time of day when we drive through the area there are cop cars parked. It’s strange to see a crime-free area suddenly becoming dangerous.
Whoops, this was supposed to be just a short update. So, my son is doing terrific, and that’s the only thing that matters to us. It looks like this was just a traffic jam, and it’s clear driving for the next leg of our journey. (metaphorically speaking) :)
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